Intersexual Dynamics - All You Need To Know

In this post, we’ll unpack all you need to know about intersexual dynamics, defining exactly what it is, why it’s important to understand, a list of concepts that are relevant to men within the context of intersexual dynamics and more.

What Is Intersexual Dynamics?

Intersexual dynamics is a phrase used to describe the interactions between men and women within a romantic context through the lens of biology.

“Nothing in biology makes sense except in light of evolution.” ― Theodosius Dobzhansky

Why Understanding Intersexual Dynamics Is Important

Understanding intersexual dynamics is important because it allows both men and women to gain a deeper and truer perspective of dating dynamics. This allows them to navigate relationships more effectively and ultimately enhances their ability to achieve their relationships goals. Thus, you become the Master of your Destiny instead of a Slave to your Fate.

“When the man is ready, the woman will come.”

Intersexual Dynamics List Of Relevant Concepts

Below we’ll provide a list of concepts that are relevant to men within the context of intersexual dynamics through the lens of evolutionary psychology, along with a brief explanation of what they are, why they are important, how to apply them and when to apply them.

“The beginning of wisdom is the definition of terms.” ― Socrates

Abundance Mindset

What? The belief that there’s always enough of something to go around.
Why? Prevents oneitis.
How? Explore your options. Spin plates.
When? Whenever appropriate.
Read More: Here.

“Men have a scarcity mindset to their detriment. Women have an abundance mindset to their detriment.”

Active Listening

What? Making a conscious effort to hear, understand and retain information.
Why? Women desire to be felt and understood.
How? Be fully present.
When? Whenever appropriate.

“We convince by our presence.” ― Walt Whitman

Agree & Amplify

What? Playfully exaggerating a statement beyond ridiculous.
Why? Diminishes power of statements and creates a disarming effect by showing indifference.
How? Deliver with a smirk and a strong sense of confidence.
When? Whenever necessary.
Read More: Here.

Agreeableness

What? How co-operative one is.
Why? Too much agreeableness signals a man is more likely to be manipulated and less likely to defend family. Too little agreeableness signals a man is likely to get into a lot of confrontations. Moderate agreeableness signals a man is less likely to be manipulated and more likely to defend family.
How? Moderate agreeableness.
When? Always.

Alpha Widow

What? Woman who is still fixated on a man who previously abandoned her.
Why? When a woman is attached to a man in her past, it’s harder to form healthy relationships.
How? Either avoid them or become a High Value Man.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Amused Mastery

What? Superior frame you hold when implying “you’ve seen it all” and thus don’t take it seriously.
Why? Creates Frame. Demonstrates you know what women mean whey they say/do something. Implies maturity and authority.
How? Done whilst rolling eyes and smirking.
When? Whenever appropriate.
Read More: Here.

Authenticity

What? Being true to yourself.
Why? Women are attracted to men who are unapologetically themselves.
How? Live life on your terms.
When? Always.

Burden Of Performance

What? The necessity to continue to perform and grow in your masculine responsibilities.
Why? Demonstrates higher value.
How? Pursue self-mastery.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“The modern equivalent of ancient rites of passage is repeatedly demonstrating accomplishments.”

“Men bear the Burden Of Performance. Women bear the Burden Of Appearance.”

Closeness & Distance

What? The physical distance between you and a woman.
Why? Closeness creates connection. Distance creates desire.
How? Maintain a balance of closeness and distance.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“If a woman complains about not spending enough time together, it’s a good sign.“

Command Presence

What? The manner in which an individual attracts attention.
Why? Implies respectability.
How? Frame.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“Women are attracted to men who dominate the room.”

Competence

What? The ability to execute something successfully.
Why? Competence creates confidence. Women want effective men.
How? Self-mastery.
When? Always.

“Competence is the prerequisite to confidence.”

Confidence

What? Your expectation of future performance of a specific skill.
Why? Signals competence.
How? Develop and then demonstrate competency.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“Competence creates confidence.”

Congruence

What? When your thoughts, words and actions are aligned.
Why? Women are wired to be repulsed by men who aren’t who they say they are.
How? Developing integrity.
When? Always.

Demonstrate, Do Not Explicate

What? Persuading with your actions and not your words.
Why? Actions speak louder than words.
How? Less talk. More action. Always show. Never tell.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“In any social interaction, the one who is trying the least has the most social power.”

Demonstrate Higher Value

What? Any behaviour that conveys a higher ability to Survive & Reproduce.
Why? A woman’s mating strategy (hypergamy) requires a man of higher value.
How? Looks. Money. Status. Game.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“A woman will only respect and submit to a man she perceives as higher value.”

Dread Game

What? Strategy involving uncertainty as a way to increase one’s perceived value.
Why? Enhances personal desirability.
How? Enhance Sexual Market Value.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Fitness Tests

What? When a woman tests your masculinity.
Why? Passing Fitness Tests demonstrates competence.
How? Develop and then demonstrate characteristics associated with masculinity. Agree & Amplify. Amused Mastery.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“Fitness tests aren’t passed, they’re capitalised on.”

Frame

What? How you perceive, experience and interact with the world around you.
Why? Women instinctively desire men who can lead. Women are the reflection of their man.
How? Pursue mental, emotional and physical mastery.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“A woman wants a bad boy with a good heart that only she can access.”

“Women don’t see men. They see worlds. Women don’t marry men. They marry lifestyles.”

“Whoever controls Frame controls the relationship.“

“It’s better to win Frame and lose the woman than to lose Frame and win the woman.”

Frame Control

What? The act of controlling the perception of an interaction.
Why? Allows you to achieve your desired goals.
How? Learn and apply different frames.
When? Whenever necessary
Read More: Here.

Game

What? Behaviours that facilitate intersexual relations between men and women.
Why? Literally a survival skill. Courtship never stops.
How? Make it your personality.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“Guy game is about attaining a girl. Girl game is about retaining a guy after sex.“

Genuine Desire

What? A woman’s genuine attraction for a man.
Why? It cannot be negotiated. Arguably the most honest signal for a woman’s attraction.
When? Always.
How? Created through effective and healthy use of game.
Read More: Here.

Green Line Theory

What? Framework for understanding relationship dynamics.
Why? Important for optimising body language.
When? Whenever necessary.
How? Adopting body language associated with masculinity.
Read More: Here.

Hypergamy

What? A woman’s innate sexual strategy of identifying and reproducing with the most competent man possible.
Why? Hypergamy is based on doubt which unceasingly asks one question: “Is this the best I can do?”
How? Demonstrate Higher Value. Burden Of Performance.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“Women break rules for Alphas and make rules for Betas.”

“Men view women as sex objects. Women view men as success objects.“

“Men use relationships to get sex. Women use sex to get relationships.”

Identity

What: The beliefs we have about ourselves.
Why: We behave in a way that aligns with how we perceive ourselves and how other perceive us.
How: Build your and your woman’s identity in a way that aligns with your relationship goals.
When: Always
Read More: Here.

Intermittent Rewards

What? Delivering rewards at irregular intervals.
Why? Create uncertainty and excitement by triggering the release of dopamine.
When? Whenever necessary.
How? Through time, energy and recourses when rewarding good behaviour.

Jealousy

What? Evolved as an adaptation to protect relationships.
Why? A requirement for Genuine Desire. Confirms that a woman is attracted to you.
How? Pursuing self-mastery. A healthy amount of jealousy enhances a relationship.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Kino

What? Using physical contact to increase attraction.
Why? Triggers the release of hormones including oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins.
How? Effective Kino is natural contact without crossing boundaries.
When? Whenever necessary.

“A woman’s skin receptors are 10 times more sensitive than men’s, hence why they attach more importance to touch.”

Leadership

What? The ability to guide others.
Why? Leadership is associated with masculine energy. Women evolved to be led by men.
How? Take control of situations. Be decisive.
When? Always.

“Men lead. Women follow.“

Medium Is The Message

What? How a woman communicates is more important than what.
Why? Women sometimes say one thing, but mean something else.
How? Decipher nonverbal cues and signals.
When? Always.

“Always watch what a woman does, not what she says.“

Mental Models

What? Frameworks for thinking.
Why? Enhance your ability to understand and navigate the world.
How? Identify, test and refine existing models and develop new models across a diverse set of disciplines.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Mental Point Of Origin

What? Putting yourself first whenever making decisions.
Why? Signals leadership.
How? Make yourself the focus of your life, not women. Pursue self-mastery.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“You can only help others, by first helping yourself.”

Mission

What? A meaningful goal you pursue your entire life.
Why? Provides focus and long-lasting fulfilment which spills into other areas of your life.
How? Identify something that you can pursue your entire life.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“A woman should be a complement to a man’s life, never the focus of it.”

Mystery

What? Evoking the desire in women to know more about you.
Why? Women have an innate attraction to all things mystical. Creates need for closure. Triggers the brain’s need to solve information gaps.
How? You need a balance between mystery and familiarity. Too much unfamiliarity and you come across as a threat. Too much familiarity and come across as boring. Breadcrumbs.
When? Always.

“The allure of mystery stems from the human need for closure.”

“Women are more attracted to men with mysterious facial expressions as opposed to friendly.”

Nonverbal Communication

What? Communication that involves body language.
Why? Determines how women perceive you. Provides you with cues of a woman’s interest level.
How? Embody behaviours that signal masculinity. Decipher a woman’s behaviours.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

10 courtship gestures that women use (consciously or unconsciously) to signal interest:

Eye contact.
Smiling.
Tilts her head.
Flicks her hair.
Emphasises her breasts.

Exposes her wrists.
Exposes her neck.
Licks her lips.
Plays with her hair.
Plays with her jewellery/accessories.

Oneitis

What? An unhealthy attachment to one specific woman.
Why? There is no “one” per se.
How? Spin plates. Be prepared to walk away. Never pedestalise a woman.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“If you treat her like a celebrity, she’ll treat you like a fan.”

Peacocking

What? Behaviours that make you stand out.
Why? Demonstrates higher value.
How? Identify your strengths and then figure out how to amplify them.
When? Whenever necessary.
Read More: Here.

“The ultimate form of peacocking is having an incredible physique.”

Plate Theory

What? Dating multiple women simultaneously.
Why? Eliminates oneitis. Cultivates an abundance mindset. Builds confidence. Refines preferences.
How: Speak to and date multiple women.
When? Until you’re in an exclusive relationship.
Read More: Here.

“Always covertly convey you are spinning plates.“

“Women are natural plate-spinners due to hypergamic nature.”

Preselection

What? Women are attracted to men other women are attracted to.
Why? Demonstrates higher value.
How? Pursue self-mastery.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“Women desire experienced men (preselection). Men desire inexperienced women (purity).“

“Women want men who other men want to be and other women want to be with.”

“Sex is a preselection signal for women as it shows a man has been able to obtain other women.”

“Men are motivated by exclusivity. A married woman belongs to someone. Thus, she’s off limits as men don’t like to share. Women are motivated by preselection. A married man must have proved himself worthy. Thus, he must be a good catch.“

Push & Pull

What? Alternating between actions that create distance and closeness.
Why? Creates polarity and attraction.
How? By engaging in actions that create distance (uncertainty) and closeness (certainty)
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Rapport

What? Creating a connection with someone.
Why? Creates familiarity and trust.
How? By establishing commonalities.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Red Pill

What? Evaluating life objectively.
Why? Allows you to navigate life more effectively.
How? Seek Truth.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Respect

What? Eliciting admiration.
Why? Women love and are loyal to men they respect.
How? Frame. Enforcing boundaries. Demonstrating Higher Value. Self-mastery.
When? Always.

“A woman who does not respect her men, instinctively knows she cannot lover her man.”

“Respect is the currency of men. Attention is the currency of women.”

Sexual Market Value

What? Your attraction towards the opposite sex.
Why? Determines the quality of woman you can attract.
How? Pursue self-mastery.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

Sexual Polarity

What? The polarity between masculine and feminine energy.
Why? Polarity creates passion. Opposites attract.
How? Develop masculine energy.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“A man wants a woman who makes him feel like a man. A women wants a man who makes her feel like a woman.“

Spontaneity

What? Acting without planning.
Why? Creates anxiety and excitement by triggering the release of dopamine.
How? Through surprise.
When? Whenever necessary.

Standards

What? What you are and what you aren’t willing to tolerate.
Why? Women are most loyal to a man who sets and enforces boundaries and discipline on them.
How? Set and consistently enforce clear boundaries and do not compromise on them.
When? Always.

“We get what we tolerate.”

“It’s better to have boundaries and lose the girl than to have no boundaries and win the girl.”

“People won’t like you for your boundaries, but they will respect you for them.”

Stoicism

What? The act of showing indifference regardless of what comes one’s way.
Why? Women are attracted to men who are in control of their reality.
How? Frame.
When? Always.

“Women are hardwired to be repulsed by overly emotional men.”

“Men are turned off by women who are easy to obtain sexually. Women are turned off by men who are easy to obtain emotionally.“

Strength

What? Physical state.
Why? Signals health and ability to protect and provide.
How? Build muscle.
When? Always.
Read More: Here.

“The gym is about developing your character as much as it is about developing your body. You undergo a mental, emotional, physical and spiritual transformation.”

“From an evolutionary perspective, physical health is one of the most reliable signals for overall generic fitness because it is almost impossible to fake.”

The Takeaway

What? Remove positive stimulus.
Why? We are always either incentivising or disincentivising behaviour, for better or for worse.
How? Incentivise desired behaviours by adding rewards. Disincentivise undesired behaviours by removing rewards (not my punishment).
When? Whenever necessary.

Unpredictability

What? How unpredictable you are.
Why? Creates anxiety and excitement by triggering the release of dopamine.
How? Be unpredictable. Variable rewards.
When? Whenever necessary.

“Never bore a woman. Girls just wanna’ have fun.“

Verbal Communication

What? Communication that involves words.
Why? Determines how women perceive you.
How? Speak in a way that signals masculinity.
When? Always.

“How you say something is more important then what you say.”

Vision

What? Your ideal future life.
Why? It gives women something that they can invest themselves in emotionally.
How? Create a clear and compelling vision.
When? Always
Read More: Here.

“Where there is no vision, the people perish.” ― Proverbs 29:18

Vulnerability

What? Exposing yourself.
Why? Too little signals distrust. Too much signals incompetency. Moderation creates trust and connection.
How? Sharing thoughts and feelings.
When? Selectively, with people who have earned it.

“For women, vulnerability is a strength (trust). For men, vulnerability is a weakness (incompetency).“

Summary (TL;DR)

Intersexual dynamics is a phrase used to describe the interactions between men and women, specifically as they pertain to reproduction and generally as they pertain to relationships.

Understanding intersexual dynamics is important as it provides individuals with a more realistic perspective of dating dynamics, allowing them to navigate relationships more effectively and ultimately enhancing their ability to achieve their relationships goals.