In this post, we’ll unpack all you need to know about the Masculine Burden Of Performance, defining exactly what it is, why it’s a gift that should be embraced, how to harness it and more.
What Is The Masculine Burden Of Performance?
The Masculine Burden Of Performance (MBOP) refers to the need for a man to continuously develop and then demonstrate his skills. This will, under healthy circumstances, ensure he gains the respect and admiration of those around him.
Why Men Bear The Masculine Burden Of Performance
Due to their Hypergamous nature and being the more vulnerable sex, women love opportunistically. In other words, a woman becomes emotionally invested in a man based on his level of competency ― more specifically, his ability to protect and provide.
Therefore, to obtain and maintain the respect, admiration and ultimately the attraction from a woman, a man must continuously perform. He must continuously prove himself to his woman by satisfying her Hypergamous desire that he is “the best she can do.”
Chris Rock put it well when he said: “Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something.” Women need only be ready to reward the men who can provide that something.
When a man loses his physical prowess due to old age, the recourses he gained over the years (wisdom, skills, financial capital etc) ensure he remains a “high value man.”
Gift, Not A Curse
We rise and fall to the level of expectations of those around us. Therefore, the MBOP encourages the upward development of a man’s capabilities. In other words, it becomes a gift, not a curse.
“Women are born with their value. Men create their value. Women just are. Men must become.“
How To Leverage The Masculine Burden Of Performance
The key for a man to leverage the Masculine Burden Of Performance is to unceasingly grow in his masculine prowess. He must develop and then demonstrate the skills necessary to provide a quality life for himself and those around him.
When harnessed successfully and a man accepts, meets and conquers his Masculine Burden Of Performance, he feels the deepest sense of fulfilment in his life and as a consequence, the Burden Of Performance becomes the Pleasure Of Performance.
“There is no Burden Of Performance. There is only Pleasure Of Performance.“
The Masculine Burden Of Performance refers to the need for a man to develop and then demonstrate his masculine prowess. As a by-product, this ensures he gains the respect and admiration of those around him.
The key for a man to leverage the MBOP is for him to unceasingly pursue the development and then demonstration of characteristics associated with masculinity.
When a man successfully fulfils this role, he feels the deepest sense of meaning and satisfaction in his life. As a result, the Burden Of Performance becomes the Pleasure Of Performance.