In this post, we’ll unpack all you need to know about the concept of the Alpha Widow within the context of dating and relationships, defining exactly what it is, the potential dangers, how to navigate Alpha Widows and more.
What Is An Alpha Widow?
Alpha Widow is a term often used within Red Pill circles to describe a woman who holds lingering deep attachment and is still fixated on a particular past partner, despite the relationship no longer existing.
The Dangers Of An Alpha Widow
Becoming an Alpha Widow is the result of oneitis.
When a woman is abandoned by a High Value Man, he becomes her ideal. In other words, he sets the standard for the type of man she desires. She then constantly compares all other men to this standard.
The problem is, these expectations become almost impossible for most men to fulfil. Thus, there comes a point when a woman will, albeit reluctantly, “settle for less” ― usually driven by ulterior motives rather than Genuine Desire. This ultimately leads to resentment.
In fact, studies show that the more sexual partners a woman has, the more difficult she will find it to form healthy bonds with a man. She will also experience less marital satisfaction. Further, the more likely she is to commit infidelity and the more likely she is to initiate divorce.
This is why Alpha Widowers tend to get stuck in the dating world for not being able to readjust expectations.
How Men Can Navigate Alpha Widows
Unless a man can either meet or exceed a woman’s expectations that have been created by a previous relationship, he will never be able to truly fulfil her.
Therefore, there are two main strategies for a man navigating Alpha Widows. Firstly, avoid them completely. Secondly, become the ideal High Value Man that satisfies their Hypergamous desire.
How Women Can Avoid Being An Alpha Widow
The key for a woman to avoid becoming an Alpha Widow is by focusing on personal growth, building healthy and fulfilling relationships and letting go of idealised memories of past partners.
Summary (TL;DR)
An Alpha Widow is a woman who has developed a lingering attachment to a particular man. The relationship with the man has ended, but her fixation on him has not.
When a woman cannot forget the past, it makes it harder for her to form healthy relationships in the future.
There key for men when navigating Alpha Widows is either avoid dating them or become the ideal High Value Man that can satisfy their Hypergamous nature.
The key for women to avoid becoming an Alpha Widow is focusing on personal growth, building healthy relationships and not idealising past partners.
