In this post we’ll unpack all you need to know about the concept of Primary Questions, defining exactly what it is, how it impacts your reality, how to identify it and more.
What Is Your Primary Question?
Your Primary Question (PQ) is the one dominant question you ask yourself every day more than any other. Everyone has their own unique PQ based on their own upbringing and background.
How It Shapes Your Fate
Your Primary Question determines what you consistently focus on and what you ignore and shapes how you think, feel and act. It determines how you perceive, experience and interact with the world around you.
When you ask a question, your brain comes up with answers and evidence to support what you believe. Consequently, depending on your Primary Question, it will determine whether you achieve your goals and the life you desire.
Disempowering Primary Questions lead to extraordinary pain. Empowering Primary Questions will lead to deep levels of satisfaction, fulfilment and ultimately an extraordinary life.
An example of a disempowering PQ would be “Why am I a failure?” An example of an empowering PQ would be “What can I learn from this experience to make my life even more extraordinary?
The Source Of Your Primary Question
Your brain isn’t designed to make you happy, it’s designed to make you survive. Therefore, your Primary Question kicked in as a survival mechanism during childhood. Over time, through constant repetition and reinforcement, your PQ becomes your identity.
Identify Your Primary Question
Most people tend to default to their Primary Question in times of stress. Thus, to identify your PQ, determine what you focus on in times of crisis. What is the first question you ask yourself?
Once you have identified your PQ, if it doesn’t serve you, you can replace it with one that does. Then ensure that you routinely ask this new question until it is part of your nervous system and becomes a habit.
The key is to create a PQ that aligns with your goals and the quality of life you desire. In doing so, you become the master of your Destiny instead of a Slaves to your Fate.
If you want to know what your Primary Question should be, simply find someone who has already achieved the results you want, find out what their PQ is and then model it.
“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions.”
Your Primary Question is the presiding question you ask yourself every day. It determines what you consistently focus and what you ignore and determines how you perceive, experience and interact with the world around you.
The key is to create a PQ that aligns with your goals and the quality of life you desire so that you become the master of your Destiny instead of a Slave to your Fate.