In this post, we’ll explore the three fundamental needs of men and women and how fulfilling these needs can facilitate healthy, happing and fulfilling relationships.
It’s A Matter Of Evolution
In order to gain insight into what makes men and women feel successful and confident in the context of relationships, we can look at our evolutionary history.
A man’s success was determined by his ability to provide. A man’s his self-worth was measured by the woman’s appreciation for his efforts. A woman’s success was determined by her ability to nurture. A woman’s self-worth was measured by the man’s appreciation for her efforts.
The 3 Fundamental Needs Of Men
Men are mission-oriented and so their sense of self comes from their ability to succeed. Therefore, the three fundamental needs of men are to feel trusted, needed and appreciated.
When a man does feel trusted, needed and appreciated, his levels of testosterone increase making him feel successful. This ignites his masculine energy. When a man is connected to his masculine core, that is when he is at his best.
When a man doesn’t feel trusted, needed or appreciated, his levels of testosterone decrease, he will feel like his woman doesn’t love him and thus he will feel rejected which may cause him to withdraw. A man is happiest when his woman is happy. Thus, a man may leave a woman when he feels like whatever he does for her isn’t enough.
The 3 Fundamental Needs Of Women
Women are relationship-oriented and so their sense of self comes from their ability to connect. Therefore, the three fundamental needs of woman are to feel seen, safe and understood.
When a woman does feel seen, safe and understood, her levels of oestrogen increase making her feel connected. This ignite her feminine energy. When a woman is connected to her feminine core, that is when she is at her best.
When a woman doesn’t feel like she is seen, safe or understood, her levels of oestrogen decrease, she will feel like her man doesn’t love her and thus she will feel rejected which may cause her to withdraw. A woman may leave a man when she is emotionally unfulfilled.
Work & Relationships
Studies show than 70-80% of men believe that the most important part of their lives is their work and 70-80% of women believe that the most important part of their lives is their family.
Thus, if a man is unhappy at work, he can’t focus on his relationships and if a woman is unhappy in her relationships, she can’t focus on her work.
Summary
The three fundamental needs of men are to feel trusted, needed and appreciated. The three fundamental needs of women are to feel seen, safe and understood.
Understanding the needs of men and women allows us to better have our own needs met and better meet our partner’s needs, resulting in more happiness, love and fulfilment in our relationships.
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