In this post, well unpack all you need to know about Attraction, defining exactly what it is, its role in evolution, the attraction cues of men and women and more.
What Is Attraction?
Attraction, also known as sexual attraction or sex appeal, refers to an individual’s ability to attract other people sexually. It plays an essential part in sexual selection or mate choice.
The Evolutionary Lens
Attraction is based on deep evolutionary understanding and a few essential principles at its core.
Since evolution’s sole aim is to propagate the human species, men and women have been programmed with sophisticated behavioural systems designed to maximise their chances of survival and reproduction.
For our ancient ancestors who lived in an exponentially more dangerous and threatening world, those who successfully survived and reproduced passed on their genes while those who failed to survive and reproduce did not.
“Beauty is in the adaptations of the beholder.” ― Donald Symons
The Attraction Cues Of Men & Women
The characteristics that men and women value are keys to understanding the means to attract a mate.
Evolution endowed men with the responsibility of impregnating women. Thus, they evolved to select for fertility. The two primary cues of fertility are youth and health which essentially communicate to a man that a woman is capable of conceiving and raising offspring.
3 primary signals of youth and health are:
- Hourglass waist.
- Smooth skin.
- High-pitched voice.
Evolution endowed women with the responsibility of bearing children. Thus, they evolved to select for security ― mental, emotional and physical. The two primary cues of security are strength and recourses which essentially communicate to a woman that a man can protect and provide for both her and her offspring.
3 primary signals of strength and recourses are:
- V-shape torso.
- Low-pitched voice.
Due to the key qualities that contribute to each sexes value, a man’s value tends to increase with age whereas a woman’s value tends to decrease.
“Men prioritise qualities in men that signal fertility. Women prioritise qualities in women that signal security.”
There are a number of invisible ― yet real ― forces at work that determine which members of the opposite sex we become interested in and which members we don’t.
The characteristics that men and women value are keys to to understanding attraction. Men select women based on cues that signal fertility. Women select men based on cues that signal security.
In many ways, attraction is not a choice ― it’s unconscious.